Love is a transaction

Whenever we look at something, the first thing we do is to calculate what we can get from it. It can be a person or an object, that doesn’t matter. Our thoughts start functioning either through fear or through greed to calculate what there is in the situation for us. Our attention is centered on that object or person.

Right now, most of our doing has some degree of expectation. When reciprocity from the other side dips a little, you will know; you will be able to observe the tension in you, the agitation in you, the disappointment in you. This agitation, this tension, this disappointment is the result of the expectation that was inside you when you did your duty. The degree of these may vary with each person, but it is bound to be there at some level.

Have you ever bought a present for a dear loved friend for their birthday? You were so happy to give at the time. Then, when your birthday comes around, even though you may tell yourself, ‘I do not expect anything in return’, what if nothing comes your way? What if that friend forgets your birthday altogether?

When the tension arises in you, you suddenly realize that you were not acting out of just an expression of the loving Energy in you; you are doing it out of a lesser, limited quality called duty or so-called love. It is not an expression of the Existential Energy in you; it is a mere outer world transaction, that’s all.