True meaning of love

A Devotee's perspective

Right from childhood, we are programmed to believe that certain morality helps create a good life. Even the new age self-help promotes the idea that whatever we give to the universe comes back to us. We are taught being loving as in being kind to others and helping others is a way to live a good life. However, to be honest, how often does helping others doesn’t leave us feeling used? The kind person is actually a victim of manipulation? On the other hand, even if we succeed in serving others it adds to our ego and arrogance. Isn’t it a paradox?

During my days of teaching school students I realized that whenever I was lenient with students, encouraging and motivating them, they used to take advantage of it and although, harsh treatment would get good results, guilt of ill-treating small kids was the price to pay for it. It was a double-edged sword.

Why is it that love doesn’t work in our lives? How long do we need to ‘try’ and ‘make’ these truths work for us? And if these are the ‘truths’ they should work automatically.

Swamiji explains the basic flaw in our approach in this video.